Guys that aren't considered "hot" by social standards often struggle with approaching ladies. This is because the anxiety the feel whenever they make any attempt at trying to talk to them. Also, if a guy doesn't think that he is "good enough" for a woman and does not feel confident, it shows, so basically, if he thinks that chicks are going to ignore him, it will be obvious how he feels and well, chicks will ignore him. Simple, really.
So the first thing you must do when deciding to speak to women is to find a mindset that will allow you to overcome anxiety. When wanting to speak to women you shouldn't be focused on how fast she will brush you off, you should just be curious to know what that particular interaction has to teach you.
Having self confidence has a lot to do with you and how you see yourself. Never presume that anyone, especially women, are better than you. When you allow anyone to break you down so low that you start to believe that some people are better than others, then it's just about over for you. Know In your head first that you are worth talking to and spending time with. By being confident in your mind first, your heart and soul will follow soon after. "Fake it 'till you make it" then becomes obsolete and you will have learned some important lessons about who you are and what you are capable of when it comes to interacting with the opposite sex.
Keep your focus on staying calm or she will smell your fear a mile away. Once she gets a whiff of your fear, sorry man, but it's over before it's even started. Be cool when you approach her and she will open up to you and probably talk your ear off. Keeping your anxiety in check will earn you more phone numbers than trying to fool her with obvious fake bravado.
What you should do is work on eliciting an emotional connection with that woman. Forget about asking her boring questions about where she works or where she lives and just try to steer the conversation in a direction that will get her to speak about some event where she felt strong emotions. If you can connect with at that level you can quite safely ask her to give you her phone number because she will be willing to give you a chance.
Once you have her number, you more than likely are assured of at least one date, maybe two. Score one for the average looking dude! Seriously though, that's a step in the right direction and directly into a few more dates with a few more ladies. It's awesome practice, so keep at it. Now then once you have her number, what the hell are you supposed to do now? Call? If so, when? Text her? All or none of the above? Good question. There is no right or wrong answer, because every woman is different. Start with a call a couple days later and set up a date. Once you have accomplished that, start texting her. Be nice and keep it clean or you will blow it. You need to get to know her a lot better before you start sending her what you think are sexy texts. You really should know what makes her hot before going down that road!
Avoid at all costs being banished to the friend zone by stupidly behaving like a love-sick puppy and being needy. No woman wants a puppy for a boyfriend, let alone a lover! Be emotionally available for her, when it's appropriate, but be a man too! You want to get her heart racing and her body hot, not get her giggling and making baby talk because you think being emotionally available is to be a sweet, clingy pup who is in constant need of attention. Women want a strong confident man, not an overly soft, best friend type male best friend. Definitely not sexy.
Don't jump every time she calls or texts you. Be available yeah, but not at her beck and call. Keep her guessing a little and try not to swamp her with texts either. It's far better to have her question why you didn't answer her once or twice (say you were in a meeting or just got so busy, you forgot). You don't want to be under her thumb in any way, and quite frankly, she doesn't want to have that kind of hold on you anyway. That just proves you are weak and controllable. Another unsexy trait in any guy!
Last but not least, do not send "funny" messages that aren't really funny. Something that tries to be funny but isn't ends up being pathetic, a judgment you do not want to be in any way involved with!
So be kind and have a sense of self-worth, follow our interaction and texting guidelines and you will soon have your phone ringing and women asking you out!
So the first thing you must do when deciding to speak to women is to find a mindset that will allow you to overcome anxiety. When wanting to speak to women you shouldn't be focused on how fast she will brush you off, you should just be curious to know what that particular interaction has to teach you.
Having self confidence has a lot to do with you and how you see yourself. Never presume that anyone, especially women, are better than you. When you allow anyone to break you down so low that you start to believe that some people are better than others, then it's just about over for you. Know In your head first that you are worth talking to and spending time with. By being confident in your mind first, your heart and soul will follow soon after. "Fake it 'till you make it" then becomes obsolete and you will have learned some important lessons about who you are and what you are capable of when it comes to interacting with the opposite sex.
Keep your focus on staying calm or she will smell your fear a mile away. Once she gets a whiff of your fear, sorry man, but it's over before it's even started. Be cool when you approach her and she will open up to you and probably talk your ear off. Keeping your anxiety in check will earn you more phone numbers than trying to fool her with obvious fake bravado.
What you should do is work on eliciting an emotional connection with that woman. Forget about asking her boring questions about where she works or where she lives and just try to steer the conversation in a direction that will get her to speak about some event where she felt strong emotions. If you can connect with at that level you can quite safely ask her to give you her phone number because she will be willing to give you a chance.
Once you have her number, you more than likely are assured of at least one date, maybe two. Score one for the average looking dude! Seriously though, that's a step in the right direction and directly into a few more dates with a few more ladies. It's awesome practice, so keep at it. Now then once you have her number, what the hell are you supposed to do now? Call? If so, when? Text her? All or none of the above? Good question. There is no right or wrong answer, because every woman is different. Start with a call a couple days later and set up a date. Once you have accomplished that, start texting her. Be nice and keep it clean or you will blow it. You need to get to know her a lot better before you start sending her what you think are sexy texts. You really should know what makes her hot before going down that road!
Avoid at all costs being banished to the friend zone by stupidly behaving like a love-sick puppy and being needy. No woman wants a puppy for a boyfriend, let alone a lover! Be emotionally available for her, when it's appropriate, but be a man too! You want to get her heart racing and her body hot, not get her giggling and making baby talk because you think being emotionally available is to be a sweet, clingy pup who is in constant need of attention. Women want a strong confident man, not an overly soft, best friend type male best friend. Definitely not sexy.
Don't jump every time she calls or texts you. Be available yeah, but not at her beck and call. Keep her guessing a little and try not to swamp her with texts either. It's far better to have her question why you didn't answer her once or twice (say you were in a meeting or just got so busy, you forgot). You don't want to be under her thumb in any way, and quite frankly, she doesn't want to have that kind of hold on you anyway. That just proves you are weak and controllable. Another unsexy trait in any guy!
Last but not least, do not send "funny" messages that aren't really funny. Something that tries to be funny but isn't ends up being pathetic, a judgment you do not want to be in any way involved with!
So be kind and have a sense of self-worth, follow our interaction and texting guidelines and you will soon have your phone ringing and women asking you out!
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